Wednesday, April 24, 2013

Recovery: Healing after Our Long Run

After the long run – be it the marathon, the half marathon, or whatever your own personal longest distance, take a moment (or two, or a week, or a month) to recover. 

Ugh.  That was to be the start of my next article, my recovery from the marathon article…….  But now, that title and its meaning, have taken on a whole different spin.

And it just doesn’t feel right. 

Maybe next week I will give my post-distance running recovery strategies, the little tips I have done after my long runs.  But I guess I am just not quite ready.  It feels trivial to be going over those right now.

Though I did have something totally different in mind, I can still address recovery, or healing.  It’s just not going to be the nuts and bolts of tight hamstrings and dehydration. 

Instead let’s think about healing in the broader, more important sense. 

Prior to the Boston Marathon, I had been counting down like a child counting down to Christmas. 

But now, there is no basking in that joy – just questions: How are my friends doing? How are the victims.  How did this whole thing happen?  What the hell is wrong with Suspect #2?

Wrapping my head around the bombings is still something I have yet to fully comprehend, and I may never. 

I don’t get it.  It’s not in my thinking. 

How could someone set a bomb down next to a child?

I have yet to grapple fully 9/11.   And it’s been a dozen years.  I still don’t get how they could knowingly - intentionally - run planes into buildings? 

I’m coming to terms with the fact that I may never understand actions like this – that’s ok.  But while some things will remain beyond me, it’s not ok for you or I to get stuck not able to move forward. 

But getting stuck, at times, is a normal response to this mind warping aggression. We all kind of know the stages of grief – anger, disbelief, bargaining, acceptance (or something close to that).  Now is a good time to revisit these stages, just making it a bit more tangible.  Here’s what I have been working through in my mind:

  1. It’s ok to be angry.  Heck, we shut the whole city down to catch them.  We were VERY ANGRY.  Recognize that’s totally normal.  And decide to be wicked cool with it.
  2. Talk about it.  Share feelings, share stories, listen and cry together.  Be compassionate.
  3. Create a safe tranquil environment for yourself and your family.  Make your surroundings as peaceful as possible.
  4. Take action on your behalf - do something that makes you feel productive, like you are moving forward.  Remember - This is a recovery process.  Key word being process.
  5. As much as I have been a news junkie of late, take a break from it.  When the ‘big news’ hits (ie, Suspect #2 has something to say that we deem of value, or one of the victims makes progress or needs support/help), we will all know. 
  6. Be patient with others and yourself.
Though the specific location was Boston, there is a bit of Boston in everyone across the nation.  People around the world were glued to the news, prayers and kindness poured down on the city and long rivalries took a backseat.  Even the New York Yankees stood unified with us. 

Patience, kindness and love are much stronger than any showing of brute force.  We went through this as one.  So, we need to come out of it as one.  Unified.  Boston Strong.

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